Loving and caring environment

When a child is introduced into this world, at a very vulnerable age, it would expect to be treated in a loving and caring manner such as to provide a good base for his development until he is old enough and proficient enough to fend for himself, though mothers rarely ever consider their offspring mature enough to be able to take off on their own. Fathers generally think otherwise, considering that their children will be well able to look after themselves as soon as they decide to make the break, though their daughters may be considered by many to be less able. The thinking behind this may be the thought that girls might be taken ‘advantage’ of, with the possible inability to resist such unusual (to them) attention.

The problem with trying to define what is meant by a loving and caring approach is that it so much depends upon the personal him or her self, this being dependant upon his or her upbringing, and experiences up until that moment of time. Their thinking would have been affected by the treatment they have experienced with other persons, as well as hearing or reading what alleged experts on the subject have to say. These other contacts would themselves also have been influenced by their own upbringing and experiences up to that date, or their thoughts may have been developed just from unproven theory. The whole subject can be very complicated!

The result of pondering on all these complications, on paper, is to consider that the parents must decide themselves how to bring up their child, possibly weighing up all the advice they can glean, but perhaps mainly concentrating on the basic principles of what the child should be able to expect, as a right, during their development, if that is possible.

It is considered that listening to their own parents and grandparents, where available, possibly together with friends who have children whose behaviour and principles are admired, would be a very good starting point. Perhaps the only problem with this is that some of the actions that the admired parents adopted when dealing with their children might not go along with some of the principles and approaches that the new parents have acquired and adopted on their own initiatives. It is almost inevitable that their will be some aspect of the upbringing that would not be acceptable to the new parents, yet the problem point may well be critical for the new child’s upbringing.

Unless the father is unable to find work, it is generally considered that the mother is the best person to look after the children, possibly because they have what is colloquially called a natural mothering instinct. Is this important?

Research has shown that the mothers who stay at home to look after their children, full time, produce the healthiest children. Is this important?

Likewise, the more reading that is done to the children early in life, so that they develop a yearning to read themselves, and by reading themselves then develop a yearning to want to know more and more, they will then make the greatest development progress. If the mother is at home full time, then it is she who has the greatest opportunity to do the reading during the day. Is this important?

It is considered that children need boundaries so that they know what is acceptable. If they go beyond those boundaries then they need to be aware that there will be a downside to their actions which will not be beneficial to them in some way. This is necessary for any group of people, and the children need to be aware that such a regime will be in existence when they reach adulthood. For this to be efficient, it is important that there should be one person at home who is constantly in the background, so that the parameters of the boundary stay constant. More than one person, such as a childminder and the like, will almost certainly have different values, and they may have difficulty following the new parent’s requirements where they differ from their own. But is this important?

Traditionally, there would be a full time mother at home to look after the children, to the child’s benefit. The child has the right to be brought up in loving and caring environment, this giving them the best chance in life. A child has that right!

It is generally considered that a loving and caring mother puts the child first, herself second. Is this considered imporant?